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Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Do we have the right?

Long post...

I would like to get some things off my chest……

Here is some background into this issue…..

My younger sister…(in the UK) who will be know as Sis from now on, has just had a little boy called “little John” (my nickname for him) and like DollyGirl has colic…he has it a little worse than her as he also has a hernia in his groin which pops out if he screams/cries too much…..so she is going through a pretty tough time…now unlike myself she does not have the support of her Hubby…he is a Tool, that is one of the better things that I have called him in the past……my family all think he is an absolute DHead….of the highest kind….

When their first son “brainbox” was born it took the DHead 6 months to get the nursery ready for him..that’s 6 months after he was born mind you!!!! The poor boy was too big for his bassinet at that stage so was not sleeping very well at all. So I was hoping that he would be a wee bit better this time round…

NOT

So far Little John as no stroller cover, bouncer or swing etc as it is all still up in the loft..no that’s right it doesn’t have to be brought so it’s not a money issue it’s all there but in the loft…….why I here you all ask….because DHead is a lazy SOAB…..

When Little John needs to be winded he needs to be walked around upright due to his colic…but DHead of course just sits on the bed cos it’s too hard to walk around right…..WRONG

So Sis has to take Little John as he is screaming and will wake up Brainbox……plus it could also upset his hernia……

DHead writes down everytime Little John, poo’s, wee’s, feeds, sleeps etc in a little book…..WHY……it’s not to help Sis to let her see if Little John has a sleep pattern or feeding pattern…NO it’s so that he can turn around and let Sis know if she is not doing something it way he feel it should be done!!!!

Now Sis was always a very strong minded women…but I’m not sure where that person has gone….my elder sister…NurseMum…told me that the other day when they were there to visit Sis asked DHead if she could open a window in the lounge room as they were all locked!!!! It’s your house too…just open the god damn window…..

We don’t think that he is physically abusive but he is certainly mentally…NurseMum told me that DHead had told Sis that when Brainbox was born he was afraid to come home as he thought he would come home to find that she had killed herself as she had bad post natal depression……WTF…why would you even say that to your wife!!!! DHead had the audacity to say that Sis had told him that she wanted to end it all!!!!!

NurseMum thinks that DHead has got worse since my Dad died as we know that he was afraid of him…as Dad would speak up if he heard DHead talk to Sis or Brainbox like that….

Strange but he has never been rude or standoffish with me hehehe..i never let him plus I’ve given him a piece of my mind a few times when I lived in the UK plus when once over the phone from here!!!

What I want to know is….what the HELL can you do? As a practicing Witch it is very hard not to rush into doing spell or a ritual to throw something at DHead…but that’s not ethical no not at all…I live by “if it harm none so mote it be” so I has been asking for guidance in this matter as I know Sis needs help and support so far nothing has come through…

What are your thoughts/feeling on the whole thing……

2 reflections:

Cyndy said...

He is definitely a psychological bully... does he realise, or does he just have a mind that is wired that way... some people are blessed with an over-abundance of grey matter, but absolutely no commonsense or awareness of how their actions affect others....

Poor Little John needs his swing to help ease his colic .. and relations at home.

LJ & BB need their assertive mum back, but she's probably just too tired.

I hope you guys all feel better soon ;0)

Natalie said...

I so relate to this Helen as you know. Argh! I understand.xx